I am here.
As of today I’ve officially been a Peace Corps Volunteer for one month. Perhaps the biggest learning curve has been accepting that my simple presence is enough. And beyond that, that I am enough.
Before, in my life, I would cope with my people pleasing, you need to be the best anxiety by quantifying whatever task or goal that was in front of me into some measurable form of success, and then going one step past that. If I succeeded in doing that, then I felt great about myself. I would have no problem being confident, warding away negative thoughts, and avoid comparing myself to others. However, now in my present reality, there is absolutely no feasible way to create a quantifiable measure of success. This has been incredibly challenging for me.
I’ve learned to hang on to the moments that remind me that my presence is enough. Like when I got back from a walk today and said I was going to relax in the kitchen, and my Koko (grandmother) said “yes come relax, we will cook together” – even though I do none of the cooking and we mostly just sit in silence. Or when I go for my walks and people I’ve never met before know my name – this reminds me that I have made it known – I am here!
I taught my first two English clubs this past week, and on the second day 45 people from my village came to learn. This was incredibly humbling and made my love for my village, my new home, grow even larger. I can’t thank all of them enough for making me feel not only welcome, but wanted, here.
I am constantly having thoughts of self doubt that I am not doing enough or being enough – what that enough is I don’t know, which invalidates those thoughts on it’s own – but remembering and holding tight and close to my heart events like the above experiences are the key to not only surviving, but also thriving in these next two years.
Each day and week I feel as though I’m faced with a new challenge: struggling with patience, worrying too much about others’ approval, comparing myself to other volunteers, doubting my abilities, having anxiety about leaving the house and interacting with more than just my host family – the list goes on. However, each of these challenges is not unfamiliar to me; I’ve dealt with these struggles innate to my inner world during other times and situations in my life. Now my circumstances simply provide a starker backdrop to reveal them and more time to reflect on them.
Thus begins my journey of learning more about the aspects of myself that are deeply rooted in who I am, that don’t change no matter where I am in the world. I am continually amazed that I am having the opportunity to learn SO much about the world and myself at such a young age. One thing I’ve become sure of in the past 3 months: Comoros is the best and only place I’d want to be for this to happen.